Rohene S.
Right now, it’s the best it’s ever been. ❤️
It has gone from feeling ungrateful to feeling more gratitude.
From yelling at my mom when things didn’t go my way to having calmer conversations.
From being rude to appreciating her more.
From barely communicating to talking more clearly and frequently.
From feeling distant to feeling closer, even though we live in different cities.
Now, we understand each other a lot better. We laugh together much more, too. 😊
And when we’re together, I sometimes give her a hug just because I can. 😃
My relationship with my mom has never been this good.
As a child, I always thought my mom was stricter and harder to connect with emotionally than my dad.
As a teenager, when my parents separated, and she had to work hard to raise three kids, I hurt her feelings the most. I would say things like, “Why do you even care?”
As an adult, I never made time for her. I rarely said, “thank you” or “I love you.”
So, what changed?
We both started meditating.
Releasing the built-up stress and expectations through meditation brought us closer over the years.
Through meditation, I realized how little I knew about her. For example, I never noticed that her energy is highest in the mornings, and that’s when she’s most talkative. Or that when she’s tired, she gets quiet and doesn’t want to make decisions.
Over time, I also saw how many habits we share. For example, in any situation, our first reaction is to panic and feel anxious. We both think too much and prefer to stay in our comfort zones.
Through deeper reflection, I could also see that some of the tension between us came from my own habit of constantly criticizing and finding flaws in those closest to me. I had a very negative mindset.
And that’s where meditation helped.
By meditating, we continue to discover more about ourselves and each other. And no matter what we find, we can let go of our negative thoughts and habits through meditation.
My relationship with my mom is really good now.
I am grateful.
