Ellen P.
The most useful social skill I’d like to share isn’t really a skill, but a mindset:
“Instead of thinking about what I can get from others, think about what I can do for them.”
If you are always expecting something from others, people can sense it. This kind of mindset can harm relationships. I used to try hard to get along with people, but despite my efforts, I often struggled in my relationships. Through meditation, I understood why this was happening and how to improve my connections with others. It felt like solving a lifelong puzzle.
Meditation helped me see myself clearly. When I looked back, I realized I was often selfish and always calculating what I could get from others. I had many expectations and demands, and I took people’s kindness for granted. Because I treated people this way, it was hard for them to connect with me. I didn’t realize how I was behaving until I looked back on myself through meditation.
Using the meditation method, I worked hard to get rid of these unhealthy habits. I let go of my expectations, selfish thoughts, feelings of blame, and the habit of taking others for granted. As I released these thoughts, I began to change. In the past, I would quickly judge whether someone was useful to me, but now I find it easier to be sincere and grateful for others.
The more grateful I am for the people and conditions around me, the happier and more energetic I become. As my judgment and self-centered mindset faded, I started seeing others as they truly are, and it became easier to get along with them. People also began to open up to me.
If you let go of selfish thoughts and focus on helping others instead of just thinking about what you can gain, people will notice and appreciate you. Clearing away the negative thoughts in your mind is the best way to develop gratitude and build strong relationships. The cause of these issues and the solution are both within your mind. If you want to learn how to clear your mind and build better relationships, check out the video below. 🌱
