Michael L.
How do I move on and stop feeling stressed about it?
This is a great question. I used to struggle a lot with this too, and I think many people feel guilt and worry about how their words affect others.
In my experience, this often comes from low self-esteem. When we are worried about what others think of us or want to be liked and avoid upsetting people, it usually shows we don’t value ourselves enough. People with low self-esteem often put others’ happiness above their own needs.
Some might think this shows empathy and care, but I believe it’s actually a self-centered behavior. It harms not only ourselves but also others.
When we focus too much on making others happy, we waste our mental energy worrying about it. This keeps us from being true to ourselves and others, causes us to suffer, and makes us more likely to be taken advantage of.
Additionally, when we constantly try to please others, we prevent them from learning and growing. By not telling them when they are wrong or hurtful, we deny them the chance to reflect and improve.
You asked why you feel worried and guilty. There could be two main reasons:
You might not have received enough attention from your parents as a child, or their attention was based on how you behaved or performed.
You could have inherited this trait from one or both of your parents. Think about how they interacted with others—were they always honest, or did they avoid conflict?
No matter the cause, the underlying reason is often an inferiority complex. This complex acts like a program in your mind, controlling your thoughts and actions. If you want to change this, meditation can be a very effective solution.
Meditation is a process where you explore your mind deeply. Through meditation, you can understand the patterns in your mind, whether they come from childhood or inherited traits, and learn how to release them.
As you let go of these patterns, your mind naturally moves to a more authentic state, which we call the “true self.” When you act from this true self, your actions will be more balanced. You won’t feel the need to avoid criticism or conflict. Instead, you can be honest and wise, and you won’t feel guilty or worried about how your words are received.
Personally, I used to worry a lot about what I said. I couldn’t even send a simple text message without worrying about how it might be received or fearing that I’d upset someone. But after meditating, I realized this was just my inferiority complex speaking. Now, I let go of those guilt-ridden thoughts much more quickly. I feel happier, lighter, and more capable every day.
I encourage you to try meditation. For the best results, consider investing some money to get guidance from a meditation center. You won’t regret it—I promise.
Check out the video below for inspiration and guidance
